Nowadays, more and more of the elderly ethnic Chinese in Malaysia celebrate theirs' birthday. My friend told me that usually Chinese only celebrate theirs' birthday when they reach the ages of 60, 70 and 80. Some old people health condition is not good, so they try to plan and organize this kind of event. They believe that this kind of happy environment can make those kind of bad luck to be overcome or bad health to be recover. Anyway now, the practise is changed. Some wealthy people will celebrate theirs' birthday grandly and yearly. For which the financial not so good family, maybe theirs' birthday is low profile.
Very commonly that the family member will go to the Chinese God temple to ask whether the elderly people in theirs' family can celebrate the birthday or not ? Of course it's through the spirit medium who convey the voices of Chinese God. Mostly the date of the celebration picked by the family members, then they go for the second confirmation of whether the elderly people in the house can celebrate or not ? If no good, no choice, have to cancel the celebration ; if good then proceeded for the next step.
The family members will go and print the birthday invitation cards after confirmed. After printed, the family members will go and distribute the invitation card and at the same time invite the relatives and friends to the birthday party. Somehow some families just invite friends and relatives orally only.
Meanwhile the family members also started to go to restaurant or hotel to order the food (if celebrate in the restaurant or hotel) or order food from catering service( if celebrate in the compound of the house or public hall). Some restaurants even give the 'food testing' service for the family members who order the reataurant food. They can change the course of food, if found the previous order no good. Mostly 10 person share a table. The courses of foods will 8 or 9.
They will order the cake from the bakery shop. It depends whether they want the western style or chinese style of design. Mostly the bakery shop will deliver the cake, but some need to take by ownself. Some even order the small piece of cake to let the guest enjoy, rather than give the initial birthday cake which had been cut by the birthday people.
The size of the party based on the friends or relatives headcount and also the financial background. Mostly the bill will be pay by all the sons and sometimes involve the daughters.
Shou tao (寿桃) is an important course for the people ages 60, 70, 80. Mostly the family members will order for the guest to take. Shou tao outlook is like the peach fruit. Inside is mostly the lotus seeds paste (sweet).
The birthday party usually held in weekend and after 7 pm. The elderly birthday mostly wear the 'cheongsum' type of clothing. Anyway, some also wear the ordinary clothes. Well ! the birthday party hardly to start on time here. We need to wait for some 'VIP' people.....need to be improve.............
For this kind of birthday party, the family members often prepare Calsberg beer, red wine, champagne, tea, mineral water or soft drink. Beer and wine waitress will serve the guests from the party begin until end.
Some wealthy family will invite local singer and band to do the performance. Some having the karaoke session in the birthday party.
Here, the family members and guests mostly sing the 'Happy Birthday' in Mandarin, English language and Cantonese dialect.
You can also see the 'red egg' being distribute in the party. 'Red egg' is the hard boiled egg which roll in the red colour after take out from the hot water.
The birthday party owner often give the 'Ang pow" which is the red packet with money to family members and guests. Some gives the bowl, mug, tea cups.....as a gift. Some give the 'Shou tao' to the guest.